It’s not an easy thing to do, but there are times where we come face-to-face with the inevitable and we have to prepare for it sooner than we would like. When a loved one is facing the end of their life and they know it, there is some advantage to it. You can work with them to make sure that everything is ready to make the passage as smooth as possible for them and the family alike.
Where they want to be
If you and your loved one have time to prepare, then you have time to make choices that many won’t have. They can decide, with your help, where they want their life to end. Choosing the location that provides most comfort, whether home or a hospice, having their loved ones informed and around them, and seeking the spiritual care they need can make the process a lot easier. It can make it easier for some to accept the end is coming.
Letting them life as best they can
Just because life is ending, that doesn’t mean that we want to do nothing but wait in resignation. Many people would like a certain quality of life. Help specific to certain conditions like cancer palliative care can ensure that quality of life is maintained. It can be as simple as taking care of personal hygiene and eating proper meals or as essential to comfort as pain and symptom management.
Getting affairs in order
When we go, none of us wants to leave behind any loose ends that could come back to bring difficulty to our family. Talk with your loved one about affairs that need to be put in order. For instance, this might mean collecting important papers on life insurance, getting bank and credit card details and closing accounts, preparing house and lease documents and the like.
Will and legacy
The above orders make it easier to deal with financial and legal matters upon death, but the will is one of the most major documents that the majority of people will want to prepare when facing the end of life. With permission, you can help them set up their own will or find legal help to put one together.
Taking care of yourself
These are all very practical steps, but they bring you face-to-face with the morbid truth of a loved one’s time left and that can be a very painful experience to deal with. Trying to keep it buttoned up the entire time isn’t going to help either of you. Make sure you have someone you can talk to and some help, from other family members for instance, when you are feeling emotionally exhausted. It’s okay to say you’re not okay. Trying to do the opposite can leave more lasting damage.
It’s important to know whether or not you have the resilience to help your loved one with all the practical concerns of the end of their life. This is a scary moment for them and can be for you. Don’t be afraid to get some help when you need it.