It is not easy watching parents get older. They are people who brought you up and are the closest thing to a hero a child will ever have. Sadly, time catches up with every person and we have to accept it as a way of life. Sometimes, people cannot look after themselves any longer. When this happens, it is your duty to find the best solution for your parents. If they can’t move in with you, a retirement home is a good alternative. Of course, any nursing home won’t do because you want a high standard of care. With that in mind, here are four things to consider.

Don’t Rush It

The worst thing you can do is put a deadline on the process. Yes, your parents might be struggling to live alone, but there are ways to cope. For example, the family members can visit every day to ensure they have everything they need. Or, they can move in with a loved one on a temporary basis. These are much better options than choosing a home which isn’t up to standard or doesn’t suit their needs. Rather than have a time limit, go the other way and take as long as possible.

Research The Cost

In a perfect world, money would not be an issue. In reality, you and your parents can only afford what is within the budget. Anything more will result in an uncomfortable experience for both parties. Anyway, you will end up back at square one in a worse position. Before you make a decision, do a quick inventory of the expenses. Then, factor it against the total amount which is in the kitty. You can do it per week, month or year, but it doesn’t matter as long as the cost isn’t extortionate.

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Look At The Overall Package

Don’t just let the cost sway you, however. There is more to a great retirement home than the price. For example, do they have daily tasks to provide a routine? Or, is there a senior companion program which helps new residents make a quick transition? Also, don’t forget about the friendliest of the staff, the independence factor, and the location. They might not live in the same house anymore, but you don’t want your parents to be an airplane flight away. Remember that there are lots of variables to consider.

Involve Your Parents

If it is not possible to ask for their advice and you have power of attorney, you can do it alone or with your family. But, don’t make the cardinal sin of thinking you know what is best for them. Parents who don’t have strong physical capabilities are still able to make decisions. As long as their mind is sharp, they should be the people with the most input. Otherwise, you are being a bad parent and forcing them to do something they don’t want to do. So, you need to get their opinion every step of the way.

Hopefully, these four tips will make the process easier and not as stressful.