Oscar Wilde used to say that fashion was something so hideous that it had to be changed once every three months. His acerbic wit aside, it’s true that fashion, not style, is what’s constantly changing. While some people run around chasing the latest trends and attempting to rock a season’s popular look that just might not work for them, the real stars of the fashion world know to focus on something much more elusive: style. Because it’s timeless style that makes icons, not grasping at trends, and having a solid understanding of what isn’t fleeting and what is makes a huge difference between having a look that lasts and needing a new wardrobe every year.
It’s not about the money. So you don’t have a walk-in closet and a disposable income of five figures to spend each time the season changes. That doesn’t mean you need to be running around in a burlap sack, honey. Regardless of your budget, it’s possible to find clothes that are stylish anywhere and everywhere. From thrift stores to designer stores, there’s always at least one garment in your size that’s classy, timeless, and chic. Learn to hunt for those pieces, and you’re pretty much promised a look that’s stylish.
One of the most important things you can do for yourself as a woman is stop focusing on the fact that you might not think fashion is fair. Yes, it’s tough to live in a world where anyone over a size six is considered plus size, but that’s not going to get a cuter pair of jeans on you any faster. A whole lot of beautiful women who weigh more than 100 pounds manage to find ways to dress well, not just get by. Don’t let the sizes psych you out of being stylish, and don’t get discouraged about shopping to find something right for you. It can be done, and you will do it.
Don’t let yourself go. So you’re single, or working from home, or staying at home with the kids. Sure, you can sit there all day in yoga pants and eat Cheetos, but eventually, it’s going to catch up with you and you’re going to start to feel ugly. Even if you’re not attending a black tie gala, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t put a little thought into what you wear each day. Style and fashion are just as much about how you feel as how you actually look, so make sure that you choose clothes that make you feel great every day, not just on special occasions.
Invest in your wardrobe, especially the basics. It can be said a million more times, honey, but it’s the damn truth: a little black dress will take you places. Every woman should have a solid one in her closet, along with one well-made pair of black pants, nicely cut white dress shirt, and a cardigan, preferably cashmere. These simple garments make dressing for any occasion simple, because it only requires a mix and match of accessories, bags, or shoes.
Speaking of shoes, it’s shoes that make the outfit. Never forget it, either. An okay dress suddenly turns great with a timelessly cool pair of shoes, especially ones that put some swagger into your step. If you do a good job of picking the first time, you’ll literally only need one pair per outfit (casual, semi-formal, and formal), and if you take good care of them, they’ll last a lifetime.
Learn what clothes look good on you, and dress accordingly. There’s nothing sadder than a woman who refuses to admit or learn what looks good on her. Accentuate your positive features, and you’ll find that you get that much more mileage out of your wardrobe. Choosing garments with necklines in particular that are flattering is a great way to go, as it brings attention to your delicate facial features and also accentuates your femininity.
Whether you’re a young night-clubber or a power-suit wearing businesswoman, it’s important to have a sense of specialness about yourself.